10. You've forgotten your ex
More often than not, a breakup is followed by a significant amount of time spent thinking about your ex and wondering whether or not you made the right decision in going your separate ways. Depending on how long the two of you were together, these doubts can resurface again and again.
Ever since you met this new one, however, the thought of getting back together with your ex is the furthest thing from your mind. Come to think of it, you barely recall what you found so great about her in the first place.
9. You can't stop thinking about her/him
Instead, you are consumed by thoughts of her/him. S/he just pops into your head for no apparent reason, and you wonder if s/he thinks of you half as much as you think of her/him. You wonder what s/he's up to and even consider calling her/him (but refrain from doing so for fear of looking overeager).
But it gets worse. You're out with your friends and you see something in a shop window and think about how much s/he would like that particular item, or you notice a poster for a show that s/he would love, but normally wouldn't even have looked twice at it.
If s/he's the last thing on your mind before you go to sleep and the first thing on your mind when you wake up — and you've even dreamed of her/him on a couple of occasions — then you don't really even need to read on to know if you're in love (but should anyway, just to be sure).
8. You care about her
There is a reason why you don't really want to know too much about the chick/guy you had a one-night stand with: You don't love her/him. When you're in love with a wo/man, you want to know all about her/him: who s/he is, what s/he thinks, what makes her/him laugh. You truly care about her/him and her/his feelings.
If you truly love a wo/man, you feel bad if s/he had a bad day or is upset about something. You don't try to cheer her/him up because you have to, but because you can't help it.
7. You find her quirks charming
The fact that s/he carries her/his passport with her/him everywhere s/he goes — just in case — and that, when s/he's eating, s/he can't help but construct every forkful so that it's the perfect blend of ingredients fills you with an inexplicable feeling of happiness. S/he does and says things that make her/him different, and you like it. You can't quite put your finger on why, but it doesn't even matter. You like her/him just the way s/he is.
6. You have great chemistry
You can't be in love with someone that you have no chemistry with. If you seem to always be on the same wavelength, and think in similar ways, that's a great sign. If you also generate enough heat to set off a five-alarm fire bell, then s/he is probably someone that you could fall in love with, if you aren't there already.
5. You don't notice other women as much
Did you see that gorgeous blonde that just walked by?
What do you mean, "no"?!? Although you can't help noticing a beautiful wo/man when one walks by, when you're in love, some of them tend to slip under the radar, while others just pale in comparison to her/him. Furthermore, you don't seem to be flirting half as much as you used to.
You are slowly realizing that s/he's often the only wo/man in the room that matters, and for some reason that suits you just fine.
4. You love spending time with her/him
This one is pretty obvious but important nonetheless. You look forward to seeing her/him and don't care much about what the two of you will be doing. Lately, just going for a walk with her/him sounds like the best way you could possibly spend an evening.
Furthermore, when you're not together, you miss her/him and wish you were spending time together.
3. You don't mind compromising sometimes
There was a time when it was your way or the highway, but with her/him it's different. Not that s/he asks you to, but you don't mind missing a night out with the guys/girls to be with her/him. And you find yourself trying to incorporate her/him into your plans or altering them to accommodate her/him.
You also find yourself not putting up a fight when s/he wants to go to Shakespeare in the Park. Although your friends find this very amusing, you know that deep down, they wish that they had found a love like yours.
2. Other priorities take a back seat
You used to train religiously, but lately, if s/he's free for dinner, you don't mind missing a workout. Not only that, but your workaholic tendency of bringing home your work on weekends to get ahead seems a bit excessive to you as of late.
Your ever-important "to do" list seems quite stagnant these days, as being with her/him always manages to render your other plans and obligations obsolete. What was it that you absolutely had to do by four o'clock again?
1. You start thinking about the future and s/he's in it
It used to be that the future with a wo/man meant your date on Saturday night, but with this wo/man, the future seems infinite. Not only do you plan to see her/him this weekend, but you want to see her/him a year from now as well.
When planning your next vacation, you know you want to spend it with her/him, and not a random beach bunny you happen to meet while you're there. And when you get an invitation to a wedding that takes place three months from now, you ask her/him to be your date without thinking that it's too far away to tell if you'll still be together.
She's the one
If you are currently dating a wo/man that makes you act in any of the ways mentioned above, then you, my friend, are seriously falling for her/him. It's time to put away the little black book for a while and enjoy the ride.
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