A Question

Here's an interesting question: Do I want to win in life, or do I want to be happy?

When I was marching towards victory, I haven't been very happy (satisfied maybe, for having achieved some milestone). But for the past year, I've taken it easy and I've been very happy. And I like this happy life. So, do I want to win?

Let's argue this in another way. You've worked hard these past 3 years, so it's O.K. to take time off to be happy. But there will come a point when I have to take up the mantle again. That time will come when I can no longer revel in my past accomplishments. Till then, I'm doing fine.

I haven't been doing any self-analysis or retrospection for quite some while now. I'm so at peace with myself that I don't want to do it. Heck, I've decided to play without rules. Having fun has become one of my goals. I just want to live in the present and be happy. The future can take care of itself for now.

People tend to envy the ones who win. But, is it really a good thing to win? The ones who do spend so much time and mental energy on it that they don't have any left to appreciate the finer aspects of life. In other words, the high achievers don't live a very balanced life.

Picture this: An independent guy who can do his own cooking, all the menial chores, can maintain his garden, is healthy and sociable with his neighbours, respected as a dedicated worker, a family man with spirituality, religion and altruistic tendencies. Add in a loving wife and kids.

Now, contrast this with a high achiever who puts in 70-80 hour weeks, a brilliant decision maker and efficient manager, successfully running a business in a field with cut-throat competition, is respected for his analytical ability and business skills. Is it uncommon to associate such a person with a small social circle, a not so happy married life, too important to do his own cooking and household chores, not highly concerned with anything that is not materialistic, even a lifestyle disorder. I think not.

Which sort of person would you like to be? It should be noted that there are achievers who have a satisfying personal life. In that case, I guess they weren't stars in school or college but mediocre people. Only then would they have realized the value of leading a balanced life, of having fun without thinking of it as wasted time, or attaching an opportunity cost to it.

That's the sort of person I'd like to be. I know the value of human relationships, money and power. I want to be a person who is better than most in my field, yet not the best. The best guys never have it easy. Eminem is a living example. I want to be a freelancer. That way, I can say no when my heart says no and my wallet accepts.

I shall work hard to achieve this ideal: to be successful, to gain money and power, at the same time leading a rewarding personal life filled with love, family, friends, spirituality and altruism.

This is an excerpt from my diary, written in mid May. I wrote this because I read this question in a book on relationships. And guys, I'm posing this question to you too. Decide whether you want to win, or be happy. Ask of yourself this question whenever you embark on a new venture, and review your priorities often. Be clear on what you want to do, focus on what you want, and may success be with you.

Random Stuff

I have this word file called important in which I copy paste all the well, important stuff which I find on the internet, which I know I'll want to refer to in the future. Not links, phrases or paragraphs which appeal to me. I'll share these:

"You can’t turn people into puppets with hypnosis, but it does tell you how to get in synch with them in a way that they are more likely to trust you and want to have you around. That’s handy in every walk of life. And you can tell if what you’re saying or doing is having a positive or negative impact as you are doing it. That helps a lot too."

This one is from the Dilbert blog, from a very, very old post on Hypnotism. This was the first thing I saved actually (or the first thing which I saved after the nth purging of my PC from viruses). It especially struck me because I was seeing someone having this very same hypnotic quality, and I noticed the effect of that on me.

"When you're feeling alone, like no one cares, read this cuz its absolutely true: Every night , someone thinks about you before they go to sleep, At least fifteen people in this world love you. The only reason someone would ever hate you is because they want to be just like you. There are at least two people in this world that would die for you. You mean the world to someone. Someone that you don't even know exists loves you. When you make the biggest mistake ever, something good comes from it. When you think the world has turned its back on you, take a look. Always remember the compliments you've received. Forget the rude remarks."

Although it sounds a bit like wishful thinking, I just liked it.

"SHED- separate the treasures, heave the trash, embrace your identity from within and drive yourself forward."

This was from some site which propounded reducing the material clutter around you to achieve a sense of spiritual liberation. I know it sounds corny, but it does make sense.

"It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again, who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause, who at best knows achievement and who at the worst if he fails, at least fails, while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat."

Truly mind-blowing quote, but no idea where I read it. Maybe it was in someone's sig in one of the many forums I frequent.

"Five simple secrets of success (People skills necessary for success)
Rapport, empathy, persuasion, cooperation and consensus building"

Don't mind this. I'm into management, leadership, self-help and corporate training in a big way. I probably picked this up from one such book.

"Relationships do not end when a person dies. Some other aspect of it deepens and begins. Your relationship isn’t over, it is just no longer externalized. The pain involved is the consequence of love. That’s what love costs. Some people say the price of love is too high. They will take many incarnations to get by that fear, which is fine. However, there is a point in which fear does not lead our life anymore. We are willing to love even if it is painful at times.

Love is the only rational act of a lifetime. Everything else pales in comparison. Things that are motivated by love can still turn out badly in the physical world, but the intention for love does not turn out badly, it can only bring a deeper capacity for love."-Stephen Levine

Profound. If that touched you, google Stephen Levine or get your hands on Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom.

"Immanuel Kant- Kant believed himself to be creating a compromise between the empiricists and the rationalists. The empiricists believed that knowledge is acquired through experience alone, but the rationalists maintained that such knowledge is open to Cartesian doubt and that reason alone provides us with knowledge.

The mind itself necessarily makes a constitutive contribution to its knowledge, that this contribution is transcendental rather than psychological, that philosophy involves self-critical activity, that morality is rooted in human freedom, and that to act autonomously is to act according to rational moral principles

The concepts of the mind (Understanding) and the perceptions or intuitions that garner information from phenomena (Sensibility) are synthesized by comprehension. Without the concepts, intuitions are nondescript; without the intuitions, concepts are meaningless—thus the famous quotation, "Thoughts without content are empty, intuitions without concepts are blind."

That's a bit of psychology/philosophy. I do have varied tastes. Having obtained some knowledge of this realm (as much as Wiki provided), I feel Kant's school of thought is sound. I agree with Freud too, in certain things, but I'm in disfavour of the Jungian school of thought.

"Just because you do the same thing day after day everyday, doesn't mean life is boring. The trick is to find what is interesting in the repetition - to find meaning for every iteration. Then, and only then, will you discover that there is actually something new in what you have been doing, and you never really saw it because you never really looked."

Reminds me of my own blog post on Repetition. It's true in essence, there is a meaning in every iteration, if only you care to look for it without thinking of it as a drudgery.

"No offences , but over my schooling , engineering and MBA , there have been numerous occasions when students from the reserved categories have made it while far smarter and deserving ones have been left in the cold. It’s all too moving to read about the son of the rickshaw puller who made it to Infosys , but what about the guy from the general category who had double the brains but could not get into a decent engineering college because the rickshaw puller’s son got in through the quota ? I am sure that one day, there will be little kids dropping years to get into nursery class."

And THAT is why I really hate India, the whole damn country is ruled by greedy politicians who mess with the education system and wreak havoc in the lives of millions of students year after year. Reservations in IIT and IIM? The dream institutes for many brilliant minds, who work hard and long, only to be beaten at the end by the son of a biscuit who proudly presents his SC/ST/BC certificate (thus degrading himself calling himself a 'backward person', and without even having as much self-respect as to care about his own status), walking away with the seat of a more deserving candidate.

That was from the blog of an ex-IIM guy by the way. On another note, I don't condemn the people who make use of their 'free' seats. I'd do the same if I were in their place and have the same lack of dignity and self-respect.

There's lots more, but I'll save that for another time.

God, Science and Atheists

Suppose I were to say that a bridge, a perfectly engineered structure, was created without an engineer, that it just happened to exist and I discovered it. The scientific community will ridicule that saying a bridge can't be created by nature without human intervention. Yet, these very same people propound that a 'supernova explosion' created the universe. (The Big Bang Theory)

Has any scientist ever created anything using a bomb? The mightiest bomb ever created, the nuclear bomb, destroyed 2 cities and still continues to do so after well over 50 years. So, can the scientific community kindly explain how a 'big bang' created the universe, to the tiniest detail- we, the Earth are all just the tiniest details if we are to believe the expanding universe theory- without some Almighty's assistance?

If a single particle exploded to form the universe, who programmed or triggered the explosion? Or do you claim it happened just like that? By sheer chance.

Even believing the supernova explosion theory, God had to create that explosion. What are the chances of your toaster exploding if you just stand still and wait for it to happen? And even if it does explode sometime in the next 10,000 years, what are the chances that this explosion will create, not destroy.

Clearly, there are unknown forces at work which you scoff at because you can't understand them. Or you are too drunk by the power of science and blinded by your arrogance to notice a force more powerful than you ever imagined. Even if you do notice it, you tell yourself it doesn't exist since you won't believe in things you don't understand and won't try to understand the things you don't believe in. That's a vicious circle of ignorance you are in. Or is it that you prefer this ignorance because you don't want to acknowledge that there is someone more powerful than you?

"A group feeling is a wonderful thing." Humans are social animals; they like groups. It gives them a feeling of belonging. They even risk personal safety and comfort for the sake of the group. That's why you have people willing to die for their country, willing to die so that someone else enjoys freedom, soldiers who throw their bodies at a bomb to protect their friends.

Why do all that? When a person dies, he's going to leave this world anyway. How does it matter what the world does when you are no longer a part of it? The most natural thing to do, then, would be to protect your own skin rather than giving it away for a 'cause'. What's the glory in dying for the country? The 'country' is just a piece of land. Is that land worth more to you than life? Apparently, it is for so many.

From a scientific point of view, patriotism is utter bullshit. But no one dares to say that in public still, because a hardcore patriot may hear them and make life hell for them. Thus, this very unscientific feeling is spared from contempt.

Soldiers believe in a cause, something unbelievable which in the long run doesn't even exist and are called heroes. Theists believe in God, and are said to be deluded, while God is very much existent and his presence can be proven. Jesus brought about Christianity, bringing hope and faith to many. People started believing in a new cause- a cause which didn't require them to sacrifice their life, but to lead it in such a way that they become a better person and benefit humanity. Hindus have to lead a life of Dharma, and our Karma affects our afterlife.

Religion is a good cause, one which-
1. gives a group feeling; people of one faith
2. benefits entire humanity, not just the people in a small piece of land
3. is open to anyone, regardless of their age and physical strength
4. guides you along your path, towards your destiny
5. gives you meaning in life and opens you to the path of spirituality
6. is peaceful and preaches love and altruism

Is that not a better cause to live for? (Not die for, note that!) So, who are the real heroes?

But, we are now in a society that wants to go against religion, against the very thing which unifies all humanity and is the reason for human kindness and the superiority of humans over the animal kingdom. We are now in a society where people think it cool to not belong, to defy God, to defy the tenets by which humans are bound. We have people who use science as a weapon and crusade the world trying to prove God doesn't exist, deceiving themselves by saying it repeatedly, blocking their inner voices which screams at them to acknowledge God.

We have self-proclaimed atheists, who are mostly emo kids saying vile things over the Internet, emboldened by anonymity to say such puerile things against religion which they would dare not utter in public. And we have some atheists, who actually don't believe God exists. They are poor souls lost in life who move through it without any meaning and die without even understanding the true purpose of life.

And then there are agnostics. These are people who believe in themselves more than they believe in God. These are the people who, while acknowledging that God may exist, don't really care about it either way. They observe both sides, and draw their conclusions from facts and logic, rather than from the blind ignorance which characterizes atheists and the over-zealousness and the ends justify the means attitude which characterizes some religious zealots.

I'm a believer. I choose to be one. Not because someone wants me to believe. Not because I was born one. I believe because I want to believe. I believe in God because I know God exists and looks after us. To the non-believers I'll say this: If you want to prove something wrong, you can disregard 100 people's logical arguments for it and still think you're right. Unless you open yourself to the possibility of God's existence, you will live in ignorance of his doings and continue to live in your ignorant bliss.

But I'm no bigot. I'll say this in favour of atheists. If you are altruistic and believe in doing good for humanity, believe in love and more importantly believe in yourself and are driven to do good deeds by your own free will, you are following your own religion and although you may blind yourself to the presence of God, you are probably better off than the theists who follow a religon because they fear God.

I'm Back

I read this somewhere in this vast cyberspace, and I couldn't help but laugh on reading it. So here I am, sharing it with everyone else. Beware, geeky stuff ahead!

Engineering vs. Computer Science : A Perspective

Once upon a time, in a kingdom not far from here, a king summoned two of his advisors for a test. he showed them both a shiny metal box with two slots in the top, a control knob and a lever. "What do you think this is?"

One advisor, an engineer, answered first. "It is a toaster," he said. The king asked, "How would you design an embedded computer for it?" The engineer replied, "Using a four-bit microcontroller, I would write a simple program that reads the darkness knob and quantizes its position to one of 16 shades of darkness, from snow white to coal black. The program would use that darkness level as the index to a 16 element table of initial timer values. Then it would turn on the heating elements and start the timer, with the initial value selected from the table. At the end of the time delay, it would turn off the heat and pop up the toast. Come back in a week and I'll show you a working prototype."

The second advisor, a computer scientist, immediately recognized the danger of such short-sighted thinking. He said, "Toasters don't just turn bread into toast, they are also used to warm frozen waffles. What you see before you is really a breakfast food cooker. As the subjects of your kingdom become more sophisticated, they will demand more capabilities. They will need a breakfast food cooker that can also cook sausage, fry bacon and make scrambled eggs. A toaster that only makes toast will soon be obsolete. If we don't look to the future, we will have to completely redesign the toaster in just a few years."

"With this in mind, we can formulate a more intelligent solution to the problem. First, create a class of breakfast foods. Specialize this class into subclasses: grains, pork, poultry. the specialization process should be repeated with grains divided into toast, muffins, pancakes and waffles; pork divided into sausages links and bacon; and poultry divided into scrambled eggs, hard-boiled eggs, poached eggs, fried eggs and various omelet classes."

"The ham and cheese omelet class is worth special attention because it must inherit characteristics from the pork, dairy and poultry classes. Thus, we see that the problem cannot be properly solved without multiple inheritance. At run time, the program must create the proper object, and send a message to the object that says, 'Cook yourself.' The semantics of this message depend, of course, on the kind of object, so they have a different meaning to a piece of toast than to scrambled eggs."

"Reviewing the process so far, we see that the analysis phase has revealed that the primary requirement is to cook any kind of breakfast food. In the design phase, we have discovered some derived requirements. Specifically, we need an object-oriented language with multiple inheritance. Of course, users don't want the eggs to get cold while the bacon is frying, so concurrent processing is required also."

We must not forget the user interface. The lever that lowers the food lacks versatility, and the darkness knob is confusing. Users won't buy the product unless it has a user friendly, graphical interface. When the breakfast cooker is plugged in, users should see a cowboy boot on the screen. Users click on it, and the message, 'Booting UNIX v.8.3' appears on the screen (UNIX 8.3 should be out by the time the product gets to market.) Users can pull down a menu and click on the foods they want to cook."

"Having made the wise decision of specifying the software first in the design phase, all that remains is to pick an adequate hardware platform for the implementation phase. An Intel Pentium Pro with 32 Mb of memory and a 2Gb hard disk and a 17" super VGA monitor should be sufficient. If you select a multitasking, object oriented language that supports multiple inheritance and has a built-in GUI, writing the program will be a snap. (Imagine the difficulty we would have had if we had foolishly allowed a hardware-first design strategy to lock us into a four-bit microcontroller!)"

The king wisely had the computer scientist beheaded, and they lived happily ever after.

Thoughts on Gaming

Recently, while researching MMORPG's, it struck me that they were valuable tools for economists and other researchers in conducting studies. They could study the economy, growth, relevance of prices of certain common rares to inflation, the way of currency generation and currency sinking[1], how a balance is maintained and how the economy moves during a sudden imbalance.

Psychologists could take a survey of the players to understand the mentality of the gamers, or even go so far as to recommend them as a therapy for depression, withdrawal etc. A parallel can always be drawn between real life and virtual life. Also, due to the anonymity of the online world, it is easier to obtain contributions from normally reserved people.

Game developers are the most benefited from MMORPG research. While developers of other game genres get feedback or criticism from their fan base only after their games go up for sale, MMORPG developers receive steady, real-time feedback with which they can rectify mistakes and pull back dissatisfied gamers, as well as lead the game the way their players like it. This minimizes their losses and maximizes their revenue.

I stumbled upon an article in Ars Technica which says that indeed such research using MMORPG data is on the anvil. Thanks to a partnership with Sony, a team of academic researchers have obtained the largest set of data on social interactions they've ever gotten their hands on: the complete server logs of Everquest 2, which track every action performed in the game. The data contained is a massive 60 TB!

The article can be found here: http://arstechnica.com/science/news/2009/02/aaas-60tb-of-behavioral-data-the-everquest-2-server-logs.ars

However, I feel that real-time assessment is easier and much more lucrative, mainly because delving into past trends is a hard job, and also because the future of that game will be vastly different from the past[2]- though this point is not valid for researching into the game economy. You might say that it is not valid for assessing player mentality either, but take into consideration the fact that the player's interest or love for the game grows with time (usually). Thus, their attitude towards and in the game vastly changes, just as time spent on the game fluctuates due to RL.

A unique phenomenon that is observed in MMORPG’s using a cash shop or item mall system is that while the players grumble about having to pay a subscription to play the game, they are willing to spend quite a sum to obtain these cash shop items. The revenue from these items far exceeds the subscription revenue. The general trend is now an f2p (free-to-play) game earning from the item mall.

Gamers are attracted to different types of MMORPG’s, and gamers in the same MMORPG have different ways of playing, different reasons to play- indeed, the reasons are as diverse as the players themselves! It is fascinating to see how a virtual world so closely parallels our real life. If you are someone with a passion for analyzing such scenarios, I suggest you look up the Daedalus Project on MMORPG research, cyber culture and MMORPG psychology.

Here’s the link: http://www.nickyee.com/daedalus/

MMORPG players carry over their experience, relationships and knowledge obtained through the game to real life, enhancing it and in some cases changing it for the better. I should know; it was so for me. So here’s to all you guys and gals who experience this wonderful virtual world. Happy playing:)

[1]- Every MMORPG has a way of currency generation, which is mostly from selling loot to NPCs (Non-Player Characters). Currency sinking is the way in which the game takes away currency from the players. This is very essential to prevent steep inflation and improper systems could lead to total imbalance. Generally, currency sinking is through buying consumable or restorative items from NPCs, for leveling up skills, for upgrading armor and weapons etc.

[2]- This holds true for a game researcher especially. However, it is useful to study past trends and correlate with the present to get an idea of where the game is heading. A game can’t keep expanding and adding new updates- there is a point beyond which this will lose appeal. Also, the soundness of the game mechanics can be gleaned only from studying the game history.

Entertainment (R)evolution

Entertainment is a way of amusement, a means by which to forget the worries of life and immerse oneself in a fantasy world- be it through a play, a book, or a movie, or, more recently- through a game.

The entertainment industry is keeping pace with technological innovations. They are cashing in on the broadband penetration, animation and multimedia advancement, easy availability of high resolution video capturing devices, etc. There has been a sea-change in such a short period that I think we can call them (the current entertainment media) New Age Media.

The new age media has displaced the conventional ones- namely, the print media. Today, people are more interested in movies and games than in books. One of the oldest and most revered forms of entertainment is slowly fading away into insignificance, much to the chagrin of the literary folks. Parents too are aware that time spent by their kids reading is slowly being replaced by movies and games. Many look askance at this trend. However, before coming down heavily on the new age media, let us first examine the evolution of entertainment.

For the sake of argument, assume that the earliest form of entertainment was verbal- talks given by wise people, visual- dance and art, and abstract- music. Along came a means of recording spoken conversation. This was great! The wise men could now supplement their discourses with text, saving themselves time and energy and also improving their reach. Some looked askance and condemned this because they were afraid this invention would make them obsolete. Nevertheless, this invention revolutionized entertainment, and still exists in the form of books.

The next major revolution in the field of entertainment was the invention of still photography, followed by motion picture technology. Images could now be captured and replayed. Opera lovers condemned this form of recorded entertainment. They believed that theirs was the only ‘cultured’ way of entertainment. The pictures were for the ignorant and foolish masses. However, motion pictures had a lot of scope, and film-making boomed. Today, we even have film schools- an educational institute dedicated to the study of an entertainment media!

Even today, movies are criticized for showing violence and nudity, but they have mass appeal and some (documentaries) are even educational. Man has adapted the available media to suit his needs.

The next big thing was AI. Computers, programming, high level languages and creativity contributed to the next big concept- Artificial Intelligence. AI brought with it a new form of entertainment- gaming. It has dazzled people of all ages, spawns across many genres, and has created an entire industry based on it. Heck, it continues to thrive even during the global recession.

Many people were (still are) against games because they are so addictive. But now, they are waking up to the fact that it is here to stay. This just goes to show that the gaming industry is evolving just like the film industry did. The whole concept of entertainment is changing. Unlike movies or books, games are not passive. They are aggressive sports, which trigger a lot of different parts of the brain. This means that gaming is definitely not a form of relaxation (not to be confused with recreation).

The point to be noted here is that what’s acceptable today was disputed earlier. We have grown used to certain things over time. Likewise, I’m sure gaming will soon become an acceptable activity. If there is one thing history can teach us, it is that we live in a dynamic society where change is the only constant. It is better to flow with the tide than to resist it. So, let us all usher in the New Age Entertainment Media with a smile:)

Girls need to realize...

I've copy pasted a lot lately; maybe it's because I feel some things are definitely worth sharing and publicizing. I read this in a forum I was browsing through.

WRITTEN BY A GUY

We don’t care if you’re friends with other guys, but when you’re sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us, yeah, it pisses us off. It doesn’t help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we’re still there.

We don’t care if a guy calls OR TEXTS you, but at 2 in the morning we do get a little concerned. Nothing is that important at 2 a.m. that it can’t wait till the morning.

Also, when we tell you you’re pretty/ beautiful/ gorgeous/cute/ stunning, we freaking mean it. Don’t tell us we’re wrong. We’ll stop trying to convince you. The sexiest thing about a girl is confidence.

Don’t be mad when we hold the door open. Take advantage of the mood am in.
Let us pay for you!
Don’t “feel bad”
We enjoy doing it.
It’s expected.
Smile and say “Thank You.”

Kiss us when no one’s watching.
If you kiss us when you know somebody’s looking, we’ll be more impressed.
You don’t have to get dressed up for us.
If we’re going out with you in the first place, you don’t have to feel the need to wear the shortest skirt you have or put on every kind of makeup you own.
We like you for who you are and not what you are.
Honestly, I think a girl looks more beautiful when she’s just in her pj’s. or my shirt and boxers, not all dolled up.

Don’t take everything we say seriously.
Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it.
Don’t get angry easily.
Stop using magazines/media as your bible.

“Don’t talk about how hot Chris Brown, Brad Pitt, or Jesse McCartney is in front of us”. It’s boring, and we don’t care. You have friends for that.
Whatever happened to the word “handsome”/”beautiful”?
I’d be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me with “Hey handsome!” instead of “Hey baby/ stud/ cutie/ sexy” or whatever else you can think of. On the other hand I’m not saying I wouldn’t like it either.

Girls, I cannot stress this enough: if you aren’t being treated right by a guy, don’t wait for him to change. Ditch this sad freak- he’s an utter disgrace to the male population- and find someone who will treat you with respect.

Someone who will honor your morals.
Someone who will make you smile when you’re at your lowest.
Someone who will care for you even when you make mistakes.
Someone who will love you, no matter how bad you make them feel.
Someone who will stop what they’re doing just to look you in the eyes….and say “i love you” ..And actually mean it.

Give the nice guys a chance.
Guys repost this if you agree.
Girls repost this if you think it’s cute.
Every Guy who isn’t a jerk will agree with this, so we hope that all the girls that read this will repost this.

*Holding Hands
Girls : If you want to hold his hand, gently bump into it a couple of times.
Guys : Grab it if it happens more than once.

*Cuddling
Girls : When you want to cuddle with him, tell him you’re cold.
Guys : Automatically move closer to her.

*Movies
Girls : During a movie, if he puts his arm around you, tilt your head on his shoulder.
Guys : Lift her chin up and kiss her.

*Loving each other
Guys : When she tells you she loves you, look deep into her eyes, give her a peck on the lips, and tell her you love her too… And mean it.

*Laying below the stars
Girls : When you’re both laying under the stars, put your head on his chest and close your eyes as you listen to his steady heart beat.
Guys : Whisper in her ear and link your hands with hers.